
I noticed a long time ago that deaths seem to happen in clusters. When someone close dies, it often seems that several more with personal connections depart their mortal existence within a few days.
And so it was that not only did my mother pass away last week but I also note the passing of the well know radio newscaster
Paul Harvey (to whom she and dad often listened), as well as Walter Schlaugat, the owner of the radio station where I got my first job, and also Philip Keillor, the brother of radio humorist Garrison Keillor.
A decade or two ago I was at a meeting and met Philip Keillor on a rainy fall afternoon. I gave him a ride back to work after the meeting, we had a nice chat, and I felt like I could call him a friend even though I don't think we ever met again. I had just started writing a newspaper column for
The Capital Times and he had been reading it. He complimented me on what I had written. The newspaper obituary noted that he also was quite proud of his brother
Garrison's weekly newspaper column, as well he should have been.
I was born in 1951, which is when Paul Harvey started his radio news career and about when Walter Schlaugat got an FCC permit to start a radio station in Prairie du Chien. WPRE was a regular fixture in our home, since it was the only local radio station and was an important source for local news, such as obituaries. I took it for granted, like running water and electricity, until my college years when I started to pay attention to how radio stations differed based on the news they carried and the music they played. When I applied for a job at WPRE as a summer fill-in announcer in 1971 I was surprised to get hired. Walt was more occupied with management and engineering than programming, so I didn't deal with him a lot but I do remember getting a phone call from him one evening when I inappropriately played Led Zeppelin's Stairway to Heaven during a slot that was usually reserved for sedate MOR standards.
We didn't listen to WPRE all of the time, otherwise we never would have heard Paul Harvey, since he was carried by the ABC network and WPRE was not an ABC affiliate. Paul Harvey's genius for succinctly reporting news, with bedrock Midwestern values, made him an icon. I met him once at the EAA Fly-In in Oshkosh (his love for flying and pilots was well known). I also heard him speak at a journalists convention once or twice. My image of Paul Harvey is slightly tarnished, no fault of his, due to run-ins with dim witted radio consultants who didn't understand why everyone couldn't do news like Paul Harvey. But I don't want to tell you how many times I sat in front of a soon-to-be-live microphone, waiting for my newscast to begin, warming up my voice with my best Paul Harvey imitation.
And finally, mom, who would've celebrated her 92nd birthday next June. Her years on earth were about ten fewer than those of her own mother. She spent almost two decades in the nursing home in Lancaster, which is a very long time. But I never heard her complain about living so many days in a little room. She had never gotten a driver's license, and didn't get out a lot even when we were growing up. Maybe that's part of it.
She did emerge from the nursing home from time to time when she could get a ride from one of us. Probably her last time out was her 90th birthday, which we celebrated at a local park. Her birthday always came around Father's Day, so a family picnic in mid-June was a long-held important family tradition.
The funeral at the Lancaster United Methodist Church featured live music by guitar and fiddle, as well as organ. And there were kind words by the pastor about a life lived close to God, which is a comforting thing to hear at a funeral.
A couple of weeks ago I finally began a book that I had wanted to read for many years,
The Land Remembers, by Ben Logan. This memoir of a southwestern Wisconsin farm childhood not only has place names with which I'm familiar, but also describes early 20th century farm life that I heard about frequently from my dad as we were growing up. Since we lived on the family farm up until I was almost eight years old there are redolent memories hidden all through the book.
I'm sure my mom was not cut out to be a farm wife. She was raised in the city, the daughter of an accountant and a milliner. But nonetheless she lived on a farm, raising her family, for a dozen years before we finally moved to town. She raised seven boys well, although we tried her patience many times. We will miss her but she is part of us and will always be with us.
3/4/9 Addendum - Thinking further about the events of the last few days, I should correct the last sentence. It implies a permanence belied by the granite markers in the snowy grass behind the Mt. Zion Church. We have been making more and more visits to this country church near the original Govier farmstead north of Lancaster. I tell my children, some day you will visit me here.
Reflecting on the deceptive impermanence of our lives it occurs to me that just as this virtual online world is a fabrication of our day to day existence, our day to day existence is a fabrication of a more permanent creation. C.T. Studd, the great missionary of a century ago, is credited with saying, "Only one life, twill soon be past. Only what's done for Christ will last."
It seems to me those who built this little country church, and could hardly imagine the trappings of the world that now surrounds it, well knew the difference between permanence and impermanence. The apostle Paul wrote, "And now these three remain, faith, hope and love. And the greatest of these is love."